The following is courtesy of Iris’s Community Partners Program. To learn more about Community Partners and the support they provide, click on the image above or click here.

 
 
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Differentiating Between Healthy & Unhealthy Relationships

  • Open Communication

    Supportive/Kind

    Respect Boundaries/Privacy

    Honesty

    Trust/Loyalty

    Equality

    Independence

    Responsibility

    Mutual Choices

    Healthy Conflicts

  • Breaks in Communication

    Extreme Emotions/Behaviors

    Inconsiderate/Disrespectful

    Dishonesty

    Jealousy/Betrayal

    Imbalance of Power

    Possessive

    Struggle for Control

    Pressure

    Deflection/Excuses

  • Mean/Abusive Communication

    Violent Outbursts/Behaviors

    Belittling/Name Calling

    Accusations/Threats

    Sabotage

    Controlling

    Isolation

    Manipulation

    Force

    Blame-shifting


What You Can Do To Prevent Teen Dating Violence?

  • Check with your child’s school to see what type of school-based program/curriculum they may be using that addresses teen dating violence. If they do not currently have such a program, encourage them to add it to their offering for middle and high school students.

  • Make sure your teen knows what is and is not an acceptable behavior. You want to also make sure they can make informed decisions and recognize potential dangerous situations.

    Check out Read Darkness to Light’s Talking To Teen About Healthy Relationships blog about the four topics to discuss with your teen.

  • Help your teen develop a Safety Plan, a practical guide to help them lower their risk of being hurt by an abuser. It can also help them identify Safe Adults, friends and family they can reach out to when needed.

    You can find a sample Safety Plan from Love Is Respect by clicking here.

  • You can help prevent teen dating violence by looking out for early warning signs that dating violence can or has occurred:

    Your child or their partner is extremely jealous or possessive

    You notice unexplained marks or bruises

    Your child’s partner emails or texts excessively

    You notice that your child is depressed or anxious

    Your child stops participating in extracurricular activities or other interests

    Your child stops spending time with other friends or family

    Your child’s partner abuses other people or animals

    Your child begins to dress differently

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Funding for Iris's Community Partners program is provided in part by the State of Indiana through their Community Partners for Child Safety program.